Sadomasochism and Sexual Orientation
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Shouldn’t an adequate model of personal sexuality include sadism, masochism, dominance, submission, kinks and fetishes?
Sexual performance - the desire to beat another or be the target of a whipping - is as much a part of sexual orientation and identity as the gender of who you want to interact with sexually. And for certain women and men a specialized erotic act - licking boots, trampling on someone - is the most desired, perhaps even the exclusive source of sexual pleasure.
Aren’t your S&M and D/s desires and needs as much of your sexuality as anything else about you?
Comments
I am a straight male sub, but because of my total turn on to bondage and humiliation. I am turned on by both men in women in bondage…. The idea of being forced orally by either sex is a complete turn on to me… To have a Mistress force me to suck a man is a total turn on even though I would not even think of sucking a man on my own….. so I believe if your into smbd you are bi oriented by situation.
Posted by: cbtme2 | May 12, 2009 8:15 AM
I suppose i lean more toward the m side, i have always figured that it has something to do with the fact that so many of us are brought up to believe the sex is dirty and bad. This is really the case with religious organizations, so i suppose that it stands to reason that self punishment for the things that are enjoyed sexually kind of falls right into place here.
Posted by: Jack | January 22, 2010 11:48 AM
I never absorbed any of the sex-negative stuff, much less religious crap. But I love to be beaten and humiliated.
Posted by: Dr. Sexology | May 17, 2010 8:24 PM