What Kind of Sadist Do You Want?
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What Delights Your Masochist’s Heart?
Gene Bilbrew as Van Rod
I find the flipside of the prior post much more difficult to formulate. I’m so masochistic that my mind fuzzes and fuses when trying to make distinctions.
I know that I should want a practiced and skilled sadist, one who can inflict pain without injuring or damaging me seriously. (S&M should be safer than, say, pro football.)
The sadist must enjoy hurting me. It is her / his delectation in my suffering that is the necessary ingredient to enable me to convert pleasure in to - sometimes deferred - pain.
As much as I like to be beaten, caned, whipped I’d want a sadistic top who would enjoy hurting me in divers ways: genital torment, inconvenient bondage, odd and peculiar pains.
Since I’m an emotional masochist I’d ideally want someone who enjoys the psychodrama of degradation and humiliation. But I know that some nice sadists can’t cope, don’t enjoy anything beyond purely physical S&M.
As a bottom when you think of a partner for sadomasochistic play what images, thoughts and desires spring into your mind?
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The most important part for me is that she enjoys it. If she’s just going through the motions, humoring me because I’m into it, that just won’t work.
I tend to not go for the stereotypical robobitch type who never smiles. Instead, I most enjoy women who are themselves, who aren’t afraid to laugh, smile, and show that they’re enjoying hurting me.
Posted by: roo-roo | April 1, 2009 6:11 PM
am looking for real life female sadist who is really into pain ,will torture my cock balls and really enjoy my pain
Posted by: ray | April 20, 2009 4:20 PM
One of my visits to Carol, a very large 300 pound. late 50ish lady had me tied overhead and had been swinging the strap for some time (Her favorite) As my ass and back were on fire and I was close to tears, Behind me I could hear Carol giggling and laughing.The whipping stopped and I turned around to see this huge woman with her hand between her thighs playing with her pussy. Her head was tilted back, eyes closed and she was bringing herself close to orgasm. She was in another world. This is what it is all about. The swish of the strap, the slap of the strap on bare skin, the moan of pain, but in the background the sounds of the lady giggling and laughing having pure sadistic fun. Carol was special. In all my sessions, we never had sex and I never received any sexual pleasure. Carol just loved torturing men. By the way this was not for money.
Posted by: Jackie | May 1, 2009 8:56 AM
I love to be spanked hard by a strong woman over her knee.
Posted by: sami | May 12, 2009 12:15 PM