Won't Scene with Others
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If you decided you wanted your bottom (slave, submissive person) to submit to others or participate in scenes with other bottoms and it made her or him unhappy would you:
- Withdraw the idea
- Insist on cooperation
If she or he refused would you:
- Accept that with good grace
- Find another bottom
Comments
It would depend on the degree of “unhappy.” If it’s a limit, it’s a limit, and I wouldn’t press it. If it just doesn’t sound like fun, I’d try to ascertain how unfun it sounded, and act accordingly. Ultimately the relationship has to be satisfying for us both, but I also know I’m “allowed” to do things he hates. It’s part of what works for us.
I wouldn’t break up over it, for sure.
Posted by: Dev | March 13, 2008 11:53 AM
The first half of the question is easy for me to answer. Never would I insist upon my submissive’s cooperation in well, anything. Will I lean on them a bit, sure. However, the second part is phrased in an either or way, when in fact ‘both’ is my answer. Even in our bdsm ‘alternative’ communities, monogamy is so often the default. Thankfully I am always able to look outside that box, as are the people I choose to play with.
Posted by: angel | April 23, 2008 9:35 PM