BDSM Dating
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People often make it sound as if meeting partners for D/s and S&M is more difficult than in the mainstream world.
Is it perhaps just that there are fewer kinky people; you are dealing with a smaller population of possible playmates and lovers?
Doesn’t engaging in consensual erotic power exchange require honesty even more than vanilla dating? The risks of mismatched BDSM desires are more serious than a different taste in movies.
Some people are not honest: often they haven’t managed to be honest with himself or herself, due to confusion or inhibition. Some of course aren’t honest because they are predators willing to dishonorably use whomever they can. But the latter is really rare isn’t it?
And there is a ridiculous false sense of what roles require or entitle:
- Bottoms offering unconditional use of their mind and person
- Tops demanding total obedience to their whims
Foolish things to offer or expect of a stranger.
No one should considering engaging in BDSM without negotiation, should they?
Fetish Meme.