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» S&M and D/s Play
At one end are the people for whom penetrative - or at least fairly traditional genital sex of some sort - is the goal of kink and fetish. Or rough sex is the ‘scene.’
Others find a good BDSM experience so exhausting that there is no energy left for genital sex. And there are those whose sex partners - loves - are vanilla and never have sex with he people they do S&M and D/s with.
And myriads of variations in between.
Are orgasms an endpoint of BDSM play for you?
- An orgasm must be part of a scene
- An orgasm should be part of a scene
- Maybe, maybe not: I take it as it goes
- Orgasms are rarely part of BDSM for me
- I never orgasm during BDSM play
- I’m in chastity and haven’t had an orgasm in thirteen years.
If never: is it a problem?
Do you think there would be a significantly meaningful difference in feelings between tops and bottoms.
Comments
For me, orgasm usually isn’t part of a scene, though it can be occasionally. Orgasm (even non-ejaculatory ones) will bring me down a little from the headspace. Besides, being horny is fun. But in a relationship, me going down on the domme happens quite a bit after (or during) playing.
When I play with friends, sex of any kind just doesn’t happen. It’s not expected, and it’s not a problem.
Posted by: roo-roo | March 17, 2008 7:36 PM